Love, Marriage and name changes

Monday, June 17, 2013

My sister kept her maiden name when she married her husband.

I took my husbands name.

This is not what I had expected.  I had been very loud about planning to keep my name- as getting married did not change who I was- I was just married.

My husband wanted me to change my name- it was very important to him- when pressed he just said, "It was the way it was supposed to be."

I hesitated though.  I was embarrassed.  I didn't want to hurt my dad's feelings by dropping his name. Seriously- that was my biggest concern- I didn't want to hurt my dad's feelings.

Anyway-  I took his name.  Its my name now. Our name.

Slightly off topic but I was discussing this with another woman a few years ago and she thought you were required to change your name after marriage.  I was stunned, do you know anyone who thinks that?


Michael said...

My sisters and I have had this conversation. My sister was married before and after her divorce very quickly went back to her maiden name, she is about to remarry and is already referring to herself with her soon to be new last name. I have been very loud on the I am keeping my last name, I have been single for 37 years and my name as a whole has been a very important part of who I am. I told my boyfriend if we get married I am keeping my name he put up a token protest but decided it really didnt matter to him if I did or not. Its interesting how different opinions can be in the same family.

Michael said...

I forgot to add visiting from SITS

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