Pole dancing is no longer a "Gentleman's" Club attraction. It is now a fitness activity. One that I adore.
As pole dancing has grown more popular, competitions have become more common. Women I started poling with are entering (and winning!) competitions. Women I dance with and train with are champions. That is super awesome.
I do not compete. I will not compete. Let me say, I do not hold it against anyone if they choose to compete or perform or whatever. Let me tell you why I choose not to compete.
Personally, I can't let myself compete or I will end up doing it all wrong. I will end up getting really upset if I don't win and it will suck the fun right out of it. Pole is about fun- to lose that would be so sad.
I do not want to do that to myself. I will also measure myself against other dancers; from skills to appearance. I will critique my feet, my thighs, my belly, everything. I don't want to do that, so I don't put myself in a position when that is likely to happen.
Another reason I don't compete or perform is; I don't want people looking at me like that. Pole has a really sexual side to it. That is fine. I just don't want myself to get caught up in it. I don't want to be looked at like that. If other people are cool with it-- go for it. Its just not for me.
Pole is for me. Its my time. I have no desire to let someone else or a competition get into my head and take that time from me. It is the time when I can focus on being me, not a wife, mother, etc. It is time for me to get out of my head and turn my brain off.