One of the things that attracted me most to pole was Kristin's dedication to positivity. She has a studio policy that students and instructors are not to be negative.
I have never experienced a woman being negative towards another woman. In class we are always cheering each other on and encouraging each other. Clearly, I cannot speak to other women's experiences, but I tend to be negative towards myself. I will say "I can't". I will be self deprecating. I will neglect my strengths and compare myself to others. Often, I don't even realize it is happening.
Well, now I noticed it. And I will stop it. Pole is so much more fun, as is life in general when we focus on our strengths and abilities rather than what we are still working on.
It is so easy to fall back into the habit of negativity towards myself. I hardly even notice it is happening, until I see my attitude being sour and grumpy.
I am putting this out there as a reminder to me and to anyone else who reads this- you are amazing as you are. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are smart.