There have been some big changes around our household since the summer. That are leading me to the conclusion it is time to move.
I have talked about some of the awkwardness in our neighborhood after the DCFS spat of the summer. I am worried about the summer. Really worried.
We have started considering moving. The DCFS thing is part of the reason we are seriously considering moving. We do need more space and another bathroom.
Our neighborhood is great, and I adore (most) of our neighbors. We have great friends, a great community, and wonderful resources and leaving that will be heartbreaking. However, I no longer feel secure around one person. I find myself dealing with far too much anxiety and unhappiness over it, wondering if she is again judging myself, my parenting, or my children etc. Added to the fact, she has not made one friendly or neighborly gesture in the six months since this has happened.
As much as I hate to admit it, I am holding a grudge against her-- a strong angry-- hurt grudge. I never thought I'd say it, but I am totally on B's side on this one.
Would offering to have a cup of tea/coffee and chat help resolve this?? The awful feeling is just, well, awful. Neighborhoods shouldn't be like this. This is not community. This is not the feeling I want to live with nor is it the atmosphere that I want to raise my children in.
Conversely, in a self righteous tone- we shouldn't be the ones to run away. We didn't do anything wrong. The children are loved and adored.
So, in the coming season we will be house hunting and preparing to move. It is a scary prospect. But also really exciting to thing of having more room and more possibilities. I hope and pray we find the right house with great neighbors where we can feel safe and secure again.