I am not a closet pole dancer. I am very open about it. When I tell some one new what I do, quite often he or she will say, "I can't (or couldn't) do that" to be followed up with one of the following: I am not sexy, I am not coordinated, I am not strong enough, I am not flexible, I am not that kind of person, I am not etc....
Here's the deal: ANYONE can pole dance. It doesn't have to be sexy. You don't have to be strong (that is why you pole dance- to get stronger). You don't have to be flexible (if you choose to work on it- this will change). You don't have to have incredible confidence, pole dancing can help with that (I swear).
Pole dancing can be whatever you want it to be sexy or athletic, full of tricks or not. Its about YOU. No one else. When I have done a routine with my classes- even though we are doing the same tricks in the same order to the same music each woman looks totally unique. That is awesome. No one else can dance like you- because no one else is you.
Stop saying "I can't". You can. If you don't want to or tried it and didn't like it-- that's fine. But you can pole dance- everyone can.