First- logistics. There are four children (soon to be five) and one of me. I simply cannot be hovering over every move.
Second- how are my kids going to learn independence and self-reliance if I am constantly hovering? Problem solving skills and creative thinking are learned skills and practice, makes perfect.
Of course I am not going to tell Peas to walk to school on her own, but I do encourage her to get her own water, etc. Small steps lead to larger ones.
This means, I let my kids make mistakes. I let them make messes. I let them skin their knees.
I help clean up, help them learn, comfort them, and move forward, but how can they learn if they don't make a few mistakes along the way? Obviously, if the learning curve for a particular mistake is to steep- I'll step in- like not letting kids play in a road or something, but for little things, they can learn by doing.
If and when they ever need me, I will be there. Because I love them I want them to be independent.