In a house with 5 kids - it is busy. we are often all on top of each other. Most of the time this is fine and we enjoy tickle fights and and cuddle fests. But sometimes (at least once a day) there is a line crossed. Sometimes the line is invisible but sometimes the line is glaring neon green strope lights flashing- it doesn't matter- someone's feelings get hurt- gets injured- offended- something taken away- ad infinitum.
Everyone loses it at some point. Usually at least once a day (often several times a day) one of the kids loses it.
Princess in true princess fashion cries and marches of to her room
Stinky sometimes does the storm off.
Pixie can scream and yell with the best of them - but when someone offends her she does not hesitate to stand up for herself. We are working on appropriate strategies.
All of these meltdowns last 20 minutes at most.
Peas has them beat.
She has the emotional intensity of-- something I have no idea how to describe- it is just a lot. She can go from 0-100 in a second. She is a little 4 year old tornado.
I really do not want to say anything negative about her- but they are epic. Epic in intensity. Epic in duration. Epic in every sense of the word.
There is nothing that I can do to really help her. That is the most frustrating part. I want to comfort her, to distract her, to help her recognize her feelings that she is having and help her learn to direct them in appropriate ways.
Sometimes I get angry and frustrated that she has these meltdowns because I really feel so helpless. I want to make her understand. I want to tell her it is okay. I want her to know I love her and she is loved and safe.
She is an emotionally and sensory intense child. I am still learning how to help her.
If any of you have any advice on how I can help her (or help me) please let me know.
She is a super sweet amazing girl but I feel like I am failing her right now.