Did I say boys and girls?? Yes. Girls can be sexually aggressive and abusive too- and often are- boys just are expected to take it willingly and even like it.
So yes. I am teaching my children to not rape--- and not be raped.
I protect them from being assaulted- well duh. Take this a step further. I respect their boundaries and advocate for them when others aren't.
I respect them- and treat them with respect and kindness.
This means: I will not make my child hug, go by, be held by, kiss, or have their boundaries invaded. One time I had to reschedule an appointment because my child did not want to be examined by the doctor- as there was no urgent need- he was not terribly sick- we just rescheduled. Why? Because if I do not respect his boundaries how can he learn to expect anyone else to?
I show them real affection. If they know what real affection is like they are less likely to mistake it.
I respect their autonomy. It is their body. Not mine. With few exceptions, their body their choices. My girls choose their clothes, hair color, length etc- same with my boys.
I am open with them. If they are old enough to ask a question, they are old enough to get an answer.
I will always be their safe place to fall.
Because when they speak up to me and others they are listened to and respected they can learn to expect to be listened to. I can and do teach them to advocate for themselves and get out of situations that are unhealthy.
Because they have the self confidence to do this, and have been treated with kindness, love and respect, they treat others that way.