We received our letter today from DCFS. It states that the allegation of child neglect is unfounded.
I have been vocal about this on Facebook because of the absurdity of it all. The individual who called it in admitted it-- we knew who it was, it was just the admission that was like an extra sucker punch.
What she said to me via text was such remarkable crap that I couldn't decide whether to laugh or cry or scream.
Apparently, earlier in the year, when she called 911 when I got sick- my house was a mess. I'll admit it. Have you ever tried recovering from surgery and complications and 5 kids- add on 2 dogs and keeping the house? Yes my house was a mess. It was not dangerous though. There were no (and are no bugs) there were no rodents (and are no rodents). There is clutter.
She said that another neighbor was concerned over the care our kids had been receiving. There was an instance 2 years ago when Pixie got out of the house when I was going to the bathroom- we changed the door latch so she couldn't open it- that same summer 2 years ago husband was in the garage getting something and Pixie toddled off into the road, he caught hell for it and felt awful.
Ok. Fine. So then talk to us. Offer to help. Express concern. If I know a friend or a neighbor is having a hard time I offer to help. Not judge not gossip. Bad things come of that. If all of this gossip is happening discuss it with the people being gossiped about- really assuming makes an ass out of everyone. In fact she had done just the opposite. She was very stern with my husband about not wanting to help us with childcare anymore- how does that express concern for the children's welfare?
She said it was a shame that I was angry and not willing to talk with her about this- a shame for the kids. Yep. It is a shame. A real shame that she, and adult, would take the words of a 5 year old with apraxia of speech, interpreted to her via a 6 year old child, spoken through a window with out double checking the facts. She showed incredibly poor judgement.
No, I will not forgive her yet. Someday but right now? I am not ready to. What she did to my children, what she put them through, what she put me through- at the moment makes me so angry I want to scream. My oldest, Princess, was up most of the night worrying over this and is finally now able to sleep again.