Face it. Kids can be frustrating and overwhelming. I get overwhelmed, frustrated, and irritated. Its life.
I try not to lose my patience with my kids, but honestly- it is hard. It is really hard. There are 5 of them 1 of me, 2 dogs, and 2 cats. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle.
And therein lies the problem. I am not fighting anything unless I choose to. Nothing really needs to be a fight.
But like all plans- they go awry and sometimes I end up yelling. So what then? I want to be a peaceful parent who utilizes non-violent communication. That sense of failure makes me even more mad and frustrated- which begins a frustration spiral and basically becomes a big mess.
So what gives?
a) try not to lose your patience,sometimes I end up having a glass of water or walking up and down the driveway to calm myself down until I can address the issue.
b) figure out exactly what is frustrating you. Is it that the kids are being loud? Work on addressing the core issue.
c) if you yell- and you very well may. Apologize. Humbling yourself in front of your kids teaches them a valuable lesson. It teaches them that grownups are not perfect, that they are worthy respect, and that grownups care about them
So don't despair if you end up yelling. Try again.