My mom never had 'the talk' with me as I can recall. I never told her that I started my period and I certainly did not tell her when I lost my virginity.
Princess, being the oldest of five kids, has a pretty good idea of the basic human reproductive system.
One moment that made me laugh was after I had Stinky. I was going to the bathroom- with an audience and she noticed I was bleeding. She declared that she did not want to have kids because she did not want to bleed. I laughed- but did not have the heart to tell her the truth- but we covered that part a bit ago now.
My mom took the much less chatty approach. Being that she worked at a library there were books left around the house, knowing that I would read them, she just assumed (rightly) that I would figure it out via the reading material left around.
Likewise I did not feel the need to tell her when I started my periods. I assumed she'd figure it out by the bathroom garbage. The only time we have only really spoke about it is in reference to the monster PMS and cramps I had. The entire thing was utterly humiliating.
princess- is 8 now. I have heard of girls starting developing at age 9 or 10 and frankly that scares me to death. At what point do I need to take a much more active and vocal role in this? How can I make sure the entire thing is not terribly humiliating for her?