At what cost?

Sunday, June 5, 2011

"at what cost" is a phrase that John Rapp repeated about the right of a woman in Illinois to feed her child.

This got me thinking. At what cost, indeed? At the cost of a child being nurtured and loved? At the cost of children (and maybe adults) learning to view nursing as a normal way of feeding a child.

I nurse. I have nursed in a box (literally). In a car (you'd be amazed how I can balance myself over a carseat and nurse my baby). On a plane (what? you'd rather listen to a baby scream when her ears adjust?). In my place of worship (SACRILEGE!). So far my kids have not turned out as sexually obsessed lunatics.

They are compassionate. They are loving. They are cuddly. They are caring. They are empathetic. All of which are terrible right? How could I possibly want to produce a member of society sensitive to other's needs? That is not the American Way!! (sarcasm, really)

Mr. Rapp states he was concerned about the comfort of his clientele. He states he was concerned about other people being uncomfortable with a mother nursing; about children seeing a baby breastfeeding- specifically children seeing an exposed breast. He states that women defending their right to breastfeed are hypocrites because they are ignoring the needs of others. He states that the law is wrong. He states that it is indecent and a disgrace. Really? A baby eating is indecent?!?

If he has issues with it than he can look away. No one is forcing him to ogle a woman nursing.

{An aside: The problem is- there is little information available about where a woman should complain if her rights are violated.

Rather than staging a nurse-in what options does a woman have? Call the police? The State's Attorney?}

So what is the cost of allowing a mother to feed her child in the most normal way possible? Healthy kids? Healthy moms? Positive association with a woman's body? I'll gladly pay that price.


Everyday Mama said...

Stopping in from SITS! What a great site and your kids are adorable :) I totally agree, you have to do what you have to do and things used to be so easy now it seems everyone wants to regulate the natural way of life. I've nursed in a car and in restaurants - covered of course but never in a box!

Anonymous said...

I nursed all my kids. We probably didn't go out as much because of the multiples, but I've nursed in stores, planes, cars, parks, etc. My babies didn't use binkies either so 'the tit was it." And my kids are fine now. I did usually use a blanket for modesty and, truthfully, to keep the baby from being distracted, we've all hear the schmuck! when the baby turns her/his head suddenly and your nipple is attached! I admit that I haven't been following the news story. Probably the press would be the best route or youtube. Picture a hysterically crying mom and baby caught on film -- "I just need to feed my baby, please, she's so hungry . . . I don't want to hurt or offend anyone . . . please . . . " tearing streaming, an adorably cute baby . . . maybe a preschooler in tow saying, "my sister needs some mama milk, please." Then cut to the offending authority figure kicking a puppy or something . . .

Leah said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog! Isn't SITS great?! I agree with your words on this issue. I haven't actually heard of the specific news incident you are referring to, but I am all for nursing-whereever the baby needs it. I always used a nursing cover, although I envey women who have figured out how to do it modestly without one. Maybe my baby is squirmier than others while eating??

P.S. Your kids are just darling!!

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